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I have a wonderfully sweet girlfriend. She is a good person from the depths of her soul and does things for all the right reasons. Joing the Army reserves was a hard decision for her, I'm sure. But like all of our other service men and women, she has paid a price that comes along with serving one's country. She was recently deployed to Qatar and is giving her all in a foreign place for our country. She is by far a squared away soldier- a proud SGT.
I placed a committment ring on her finger before she left for her tour, for I wanted her to know my love for her would stay true and strong while she made this ultimate sacrifice. Unfortunatly, when people ask her who the ring is from, she cannot say. She cannot say she has a girlfriend waiting for her at home, one who aches for her and wants to marry her. Along with the emotional hardships of being away from home and fighting in a war, she deals with silence.
There are no support groups for gays who have spouses in the war. I cannot hang my yellow "deployed spouse" banner on my tree in the front yard.
I am grateful to be an American, I am grateful for all the she is currently defending for me. But...
Dear future President of the United States:
Take away my right to marry. Don't allow me in the emergency room should she get into a horrible accident. Discriminate against me in your narrow mind. But atleast let my beautiful girlfriend use her God given American freedom of speech and let her declare her love for me. You owe her that much.
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RE: My girlfriend is a U.S. Army Soldier
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Feb 1 2008, 10:33 AM EST
"I have actually been talking to several spouses of military friends (mainly straight).
It truly is amazing how much better conditions are in Iraq and other places for our soldiers. They get to use the internet, call home to loved ones daily , recieve boxes of goodies. Being away from home is never good, and war is a burden, but I at least take comfort my girlfriend is in an ok place with ok conditions. I am grateful I get to talk to her daily. The weeks and months go by so slow as I wait for her return.
She stills struggles daily with not being able to share who the ring on her left finger is from. I struggle with this too. A lot. I think it is so sad we are still so archaic as humans that we discriminate and put a muzzle on people's mouths like they are dogs.
When she returns, she faces big decisions.
Does she re-enlist? Become an officer?
Keep giving back to her country?
Or not, because the very institution that teachers her honor, discipline, character....also teaches her to lie about who she is. To be ashamed of who she is. To hide her heart.
What a hard dichotomy to live with.
No one should have live with that...especially our soldiers." My heart goes out to you (Iron Girl)...The world can be a cruel and unkind place sometimes.....To hold your head up and keep very quiet.....In such a loud world, can be cruel to the heart.......You know in your heart right from wrong,maybe one day the world will be able to except the things they can not change and open there minds to all..We can only hope to bring peace and under standing...Love will conquer all,and bring justice forth.......Hang in there sweetie......All in time
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